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"Before I Go to Cell Group" - Dan Burmeister, Lead Pastor


Each week, members from our worship team provide ways to experience worship at home and in groups. We explore different ways to worship together.

This week: internalizing worship with "See A Victory"

Dynamic Family

Date: August 9, 2020

Title: Encouraging

Speaker: John and Krista Cassell



Give an example from your childhood of a time that someone criticized/discouraged you. How did that experience impact you?

Set the tone:

Today we are going to explore the role that encouragement plays in building healthy families and healthy relationships.

Read 1 Thessalonians 5:11

"Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing."

  • How might your experience that you shared have been different for you if the person who was critical had somehow encouraged you instead?

In today's video interview, we saw some outstanding perspectives about encouragement...

Turner: "When you're down and you need to remember what's true...if people would remind you basically."

Kip: "Encouragement means someone telling me what I need to hear when I need to hear it. Especially after a failure..."

Monica: "Getting in the boat with someone and taking up a paddle."

  • What is your perspective on what encouragement is about?
  • Do you think encouraging others comes naturally?
  • Does being critical/harsh/judgmental help build healthy relationships?  
  • Why does it sometimes seem so much easier to tear down than to build others up?

John shared today that God gives us help with encouraging others:

In John 14:16, Jesus said, "I will ask the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may be with you forever."

Jesus was speaking of the Holy Spirit, who empowers us to encourage others. The Greek word used here to describe the Holy Spirit (or the "Helper," as He is called in this verse) is Parakletos. This word (and the verb form Parakaleo) occurs 100 times in the New Testament. It means "to come alongside," "support," "instruct," and "comfort."

  • Give examples of ways that the Holy Spirit might help you to encourage others?

Compare being critical vs. encouraging when raising children, in friendships, in work relationships, and/or in marriage.

  • What are some ways that Jesus encouraged others?

Krista talked about parent's being concerned about their children's grades, and not seeming as concerned about the way they demonstrate God's love.

  • Is it more important to encourage someone's character, rather than their abilities? Why?


  • Why is it so easy to criticize those we love?
  • Is it possible that our criticism might be flowing from insecurities that we feel about ourselves?  
  • Share ways that your own insecurities create critical attitudes towards others.
  • Do we get upset when we see something faulty in others that reminds us of ourselves?
  • What are some things that you can do differently? How do you think these changes will enhance your relationships?
  • How can you be more accessible, responsive and engaged?
  • How can finding your identity in Christ help us with these difficult tasks?